My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me and I Want Him Back

When your boyfriend breaks up with you, when you don't want the break up, it can turn your world upside down.  Your emotions are all over the place and your first instinct is to convince or show him why he should take you back.

The things that destroy your chances are calling, questioning, texting, pleading, crying, or just wanting to talk about what went wrong and how he feels. These things just drive him further away.

Have you ever broken up with a man and then he just kept wanting to talk about it. He kept on and on. How did you feel? You knew there was nothing you could really say to make him feel better and talking to him only made you feel guilt.

Guilt is not an emotion that will bring his attraction back for you, trust me. Chances are if he kept it up, you began to feel sorry for him and started to see him as pathetic. Are you going back to a pathetic man? I doubt it, so why should he want you back if you are acting this way. Desperate comes to mind.

You may very well be feeling desperate, calling your girlfriends crying, my boyfriend broke up with me. Call your girlfriends, lean on them, but don't lean on him for your comfort. He broke up with you remember? It's ok to feel desperate, even quite normal.

The thing to remember here is to not let him see you this way. Self control is very sexy. A woman out of control is a wet blanket, really she is. It's not easy to have this self control when your emotions are all over the place, but if you want him back, it's critical that you keep control.

I know this works. My ex got me back after I broke up with him. Had he groveled, it would never have happened. He didn't. He accepted the break up like a man and went into no contact. I had time to miss him. Eventually the memories that caused the break up faded and were replaced by the strong man that he showed himself to be. Not to mention it was the respectable thing to do. To fight the break up would not have been respectful of my wishes. A couple months later, we worked it out. It would never have happened had he lost his self control or acted pathetic.

If your boyfriend broke up with you, you want to be strong and hold onto your dignity regardless of if you get him back or not. Do you want your ex to have his last memory of you crying and pathetic or of a woman with her head held high? That image will eventually replace his last image of you if you keep your self control. If you want your boyfriend back, remember self control and no drama is the key.

If your boyfriend just broke up with you, he has lost his attraction for you more than likely. If you want him back, you have to have a plan to rekindle his attraction.

The Best Plan to Get Keep Your Dignity and Get Your Boyfriend Back is HERE.

My Boyfriend Just Broke Up With Me

If your boyfriend just broke up with you, chances are good you are out of control emotionally. You have all these questions in your head, most of which start why or how.  How could he, why did he?  This time is critical though, it really is.  It's critical to keep your dignity and not look like a blubbering love sick school girl.  If you are hoping to get him back, what you do right now will determine this.  You don't want to be out of control, it shows you in a very unattractive light.  My friend Nicole Gayle described it best in her book "How to go from girlfriend to wife".

You may have had hopes of him being the one and really enjoyed being with
him but you must take what he says to you seriously and do not become a
Drama Queen. EVER! Your secret weapon: joy, lots and lots of it.
You don't have time to wallow in self pity. Pick yourself up, even if you
have to do so by your bra strap and don't listen to any well meaning advice
that you should give him time, try to remain friends, or contact him. This is
not in your best interest because you should never beg a man to reconsider.
That's not being smart!

You don't want to appear weak because people don't respond very well to
desperate acts. If you've ever watched the bachelor, you'll know what I
mean. This is beneath you. When a man starts telling you that he is no
longer into you, he means it. You must remain calm and together. Don't
ever break down by starting to cry in front of him but remain in control and
act like it's totally OK with you - deal with your feelings after. Break down
and let it all out after you've turned your back. What he wants to hear is that
you can handle yourself like a lady not buckets and buckets of rain.
When you're able to get some perspective, you'll be proud that you were
strong and didn't fall apart. You'll feel good about how you handled it
instead of having a criminal record of holding a man hostage to you.
My girlfriends' relationship with a co-worker didn't work out and she found
it difficult because it ended unresolved. She was raging angry but she didn't
show it when she would go to work. After a couple of weeks of reflection,
she came to the realization that knowing her personal self worth and value
was the key.

She decided to not allow a man, opinions, or circumstances to define who
she is as a woman. This level of enlightenment caused her to begin to
pamper herself by going out on the town, to the spa, getting her hair done,
and new clothes. And she told me that the best thing that could have ever
happened was to bump into him looking like a Fox. That day she was hot
and she knew it. As a matter of fact when she saw him at the elevator it was
a showdown - her chance to strut her stuff. They locked eyes, he checked
her out, and when she did the cat walk straight towards him while being
happy like she just won a million bucks, he suddenly lost his confidence
[BOOM].

He tried to make small talk and she thought she'd stop but she looked down
and saw that her legs kept walking. She walked away with her power and he
was left there drooling.
P.S. That's how you should handle a breakup

Regardless if you want him back, your dignity and grace is what he will remember.  Drama will only reinforce that breaking up with you was in fact the right decision.  The only way to get yourself under control is to go into no contact.  Not texts, no calls, no smoke signals.  He has to feel the loss of you.  If you stay in contact, he won't have time to miss you at all.  It just adds more pressure and more guilt to him.  If you think guilt will work in any way at all, you are sadly mistaken.  Hold onto your dignity woman, it's the only way to come out on top of this break up.

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My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me But He Keeps Calling and Texting

Oh the agony, when a boyfriend broke up with you but still texts and calls. It leaves you in limbo land. It gives you hope. It makes you think he misses you and may be thinking of getting back together.

It's pretty common though when a boyfriend breaks up to try to remain in contact with you. It's his way of easing his guilt. It's also a way of easing his pain. He does probably feel some pain, and by talking and communicating with you, it soothes him, yet he doesn't have to get back together.

Not fair at all is it. While you are easing his pain, you are also making your boyfriend's transition into the single life easier. He doesn't have to feel the loss of you all at one time. He can ease in, like you ease into a cold body of water.

Everytime you talk to him, it leaves you feeling empty and helpless. You don't know to be sad or glad. He talked to you so he must be thinking about you, but yet he makes no moves to get back together. This is just prolonging your healing and makiing your transitiion harder.

If you want to get him back, talking to him isn't going to do it. That's like him telling you "I promised you an entire chocolate cake, but it turns out all I have to give is crumbs". By accepting his crumbs you are telling him it's okay, you will settle for less when you really want more.

This will not get him back. To get him back you have to tap into his pain. He has to feel it. By talking to him, you buffer his pain. He moves forward and he has you to talk to when he is lonely and bored.

There are ways to tap into his pain, there are ways to rekindle his love and get him back. One of the best plans that I have followed with success is here.