Does No Contact Work Getting Your Ex Back

Does no contact work in getting your ex back?  Let me just say this.  There is no guarantee that no contact will get your ex back, but it sure will increase your odds.  It also beats the alternative risk of coming across as an emotional desperate wreck with no control over herself or her emotions that calls and texts him wanting to talk or begging for closure or reassurance.

When a guy first breaks up with you, your emotions are all over the place.  You can't make good decisions from a place of emotions.  They get in the way.  You do and say things that you regret.  You come across in an unattractive light.  This turns him off.  He is more likely to feel pity than love and I know you don't want that.

No contact gives you time to get your head together and gain some balance. A guy will notice your absence as well.  No contact gives him the space to miss you and to think about you.  If you keep after him by remaining in contact, he  may only think about how annoying you are.

If you want your ex back, no contact really is your best bet.  In the beginning, he is likely to remember more of the bad things in your relationship.  Over time, it's been proven, people start to remember the good.  Give him the space to do so.  

The absolute very best resource on no contact is available by Bob Grant.  He explains exactly how no contact works and explains how it can get your ex back.  You can download it here.

No Contact Rule

No contact removes the source of pain from your life and allows you to begin to heal. If you continue to communicate, you are going to have emotional turmoil and constant reminders. You are just prolonging the pain. Remember a time when you were single and happy. This time of no contact will allow you to regain your independence and be happy with you. It allows you to build your confidence back up. If you are seeking reconciliation, an unhappy, non confident person is useless to their partner.

The no contact rule can serve another purpose if you are seeking reconciliation. It can send a wake up call to your ex and they make second guess their decision to end the relationship. While there are no guarantees that you will get your ex back, chances are better if you vanish from their life that they will miss you. Don't expect it to happen in a few days or even weeks, it takes time for an ex to evaluate the loss.

If you have an ex that wants to remain friends, chances are its because they don't want to lose you completely. Without no contact, rest assured that once your ex is back on their feet (because you helped them by offering your friendship) they will be on their way and your friendship will be non existent. The no contact rule is a much smarter option than remaining friends. Being friends causes you pain and allows your ex to heal quicker. No contact causes your ex pain and allows you to heal quicker.

It is very important that once you make this decision to go into no contact that you stick to it. If you waver back and forth you are sending the signal to your ex that you are weak and are still available to them. They will not take you seriously. Sometimes a surprising thing comes out of no contact. Once they are out of your life and the healing begins, your emotions get under control and you see things differently. You may discover that they were not the one for you after all and that other more promising possibilities await you.