I would not be on the path I am on. Sure I went through the crying, depression, not wanting to get out of bed. I wondered "why", countless times. I lost a ton of weight. I was angry and hurt. I wanted him back. I even got him back once, but alas, he dumped me a second time. This weighed heavy on my ego to say the least. Being dumped is a knock down, I don't care who you are.
Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. The break up set my life as I know it now in motion. I had to call upon great inner strength and self control many a days. Though it was no fun, it was nice to again meet that strength, and an inspiration to keep me going that I did have a lot of strength. Learning self control has turned out to be a great blessing that has carried to other parts of my life in a good way. Had my ex boyfriend stayed, this would have remained stagnant in me for who knows how long.
These last 3 years have been the most exciting in my life so far. I had a whirl wind romance and landed in Vegas. I met 4 complete stangers (women) in Atlantic and New York City for 5 days. I met them online in a break up forum. I had a bitter sweet e-affair that I will never forget. He taught me so much or rather I learned so much from him. I went on countless dates with interesting men that better helped me decide what I do want in a relationship, really want. I have had weekends at the beach with my best girlfriends. I have connected with amazing people every where. I can't help but wonder if I had stayed with my ex boyfriend if any of this would have transpired. I think I know the answer to that.
In the process of it all, my career path changed as well. I had always been in the cooperate world. I begin to like my freedom, even embraced it in time. I wanted it in all areas of my life, and I wanted to do something worth while. Hence now I write articles on break ups, relationships, dating, flirting, you name it. I like to think I am making a difference and earning a modest living in the process. I am very very happy doing what I do. My ex boyfriend would have thought I was crazy. I was dabbling with it when we broke up. Would I have stopped it all for him, shiver to think this.
Last but not least, I have a man in my life that supports me in all I do. He is my cheerleader. Had it not been for my ex boyfriend, I would have missed him in my life.
Moral here. What seems like hopelessness and despair really isn't. There is a much bigger picture, a much bigger plan and it's way bigger than your ex boyfriend. Embrace your freedom, doors are waiting to be opened now. There is life after what's his name, I promise.
Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. The break up set my life as I know it now in motion. I had to call upon great inner strength and self control many a days. Though it was no fun, it was nice to again meet that strength, and an inspiration to keep me going that I did have a lot of strength. Learning self control has turned out to be a great blessing that has carried to other parts of my life in a good way. Had my ex boyfriend stayed, this would have remained stagnant in me for who knows how long.
These last 3 years have been the most exciting in my life so far. I had a whirl wind romance and landed in Vegas. I met 4 complete stangers (women) in Atlantic and New York City for 5 days. I met them online in a break up forum. I had a bitter sweet e-affair that I will never forget. He taught me so much or rather I learned so much from him. I went on countless dates with interesting men that better helped me decide what I do want in a relationship, really want. I have had weekends at the beach with my best girlfriends. I have connected with amazing people every where. I can't help but wonder if I had stayed with my ex boyfriend if any of this would have transpired. I think I know the answer to that.
In the process of it all, my career path changed as well. I had always been in the cooperate world. I begin to like my freedom, even embraced it in time. I wanted it in all areas of my life, and I wanted to do something worth while. Hence now I write articles on break ups, relationships, dating, flirting, you name it. I like to think I am making a difference and earning a modest living in the process. I am very very happy doing what I do. My ex boyfriend would have thought I was crazy. I was dabbling with it when we broke up. Would I have stopped it all for him, shiver to think this.
Last but not least, I have a man in my life that supports me in all I do. He is my cheerleader. Had it not been for my ex boyfriend, I would have missed him in my life.
Moral here. What seems like hopelessness and despair really isn't. There is a much bigger picture, a much bigger plan and it's way bigger than your ex boyfriend. Embrace your freedom, doors are waiting to be opened now. There is life after what's his name, I promise.
