If your boyfriend just broke up with you, you are probably just a hot mess. You can't sleep, you can't eat and you are just miserable. The same thoughts keep running through your mind over and over. You replay the last days, weeks and even months over and over in your mind, driving yourself crazy. Getting over a break up is so exhausting and painful.
Your friends have probably heard enough. True they are there for you and it's all great, but you know and they know you sound like a broken record. You keep asking why and you enlist their help to help you understand it all. You sometimes feel you will never be getting over a break up.
Thing is, you still don't understand it all. There are nights you are probably all alone with nothing but your thoughts to drive you crazy. You hate to call someone up because you know at this point, you suck at conversation. Where can you go, what can you do.
This happened to me in June of 2009. I landed on a women's forum. I read for a while, then I joined and started posting. I created a thread there called No Contact Support. Hundreds of women joined me there. The forum was recently shut down. Another heart break for me. I was shut off from all of those fabulous women who now could use my knowledge on getting over a break up.
I couldn't stand it, I created my own site with a forum so that I could continue the over 12,000 posts. I contacted all of the ladies and they followed me. When you are getting over a break up, you don't have to go at it alone. We are here.
If you are looking for a place to land and some fabulous support from women who have and still are going through what you are going through, please join us here. We would welcome you, comfort you and listen to you ask why over and over with no complaints. We would love to have you. You can find it here. We will take you beyond the break up.
Showing posts with label getting over a break up. Show all posts
Showing posts with label getting over a break up. Show all posts
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Getting Over a Break Up
How do you get over him you ask. How is it possible when you carry the pain around and the break up consumes your every thought. A big part of your life is gone. No more phone calls, sharing the same bed, laughing, its all gone and you feel lost. You feel helpless and at the mercy of your constantly changing emotions. They say time heals all wounds, but you want to get over him now.
The first thing you have to realize is that it is your choice as to how quickly you can heal. You can hold onto all that pain or you can chose to start letting go. Although the one that left us behind may be the source of the pain, they are not the ones preventing the healing. To heal is solely your responsibility. You may be saying I just wish I had some closure. Closure is your option, you chose to open or close, its that simple. Chose to close. Chose to get over him. Getting over a break up is never ever easy, but it can be done.
One of the first and most important step to get over him or her for that matter is to remove the source of pain from your life. Remove the source means to stop all contact. Get him out of your life so he will not have any power to inflict further pain. Step back and take this time for you.
Get rid of all emails, text messages, block him from face book, my space and any other social media sites. Get rid of all of his stuff. This man that broke your heart is like an addiction, an addiction that you want to be free of. All of those emails, texts etc... are triggers, they trigger the craving. Anyone who has ever stopped an addiction will tell you one of the first steps to recovery is to remove those triggers. REMOVE THE TRIGGERS. Hit delete and block all the way across the board. This is a major step in getting over a break up.
After about 2 weeks of no contact if you are open to healing, you will start to see things more clearly. You will start to think of him less and less. He will no longer consume your thoughts and new possibilities will enter your life. if you can get through 2 weeks then you will have the strength to make it 2 more and so on until one day you wake up and when your feet hit the floor he does not even cross your mind. There is life after a heart break, you can and will get over him.
The first thing you have to realize is that it is your choice as to how quickly you can heal. You can hold onto all that pain or you can chose to start letting go. Although the one that left us behind may be the source of the pain, they are not the ones preventing the healing. To heal is solely your responsibility. You may be saying I just wish I had some closure. Closure is your option, you chose to open or close, its that simple. Chose to close. Chose to get over him. Getting over a break up is never ever easy, but it can be done.
One of the first and most important step to get over him or her for that matter is to remove the source of pain from your life. Remove the source means to stop all contact. Get him out of your life so he will not have any power to inflict further pain. Step back and take this time for you.
Get rid of all emails, text messages, block him from face book, my space and any other social media sites. Get rid of all of his stuff. This man that broke your heart is like an addiction, an addiction that you want to be free of. All of those emails, texts etc... are triggers, they trigger the craving. Anyone who has ever stopped an addiction will tell you one of the first steps to recovery is to remove those triggers. REMOVE THE TRIGGERS. Hit delete and block all the way across the board. This is a major step in getting over a break up.
After about 2 weeks of no contact if you are open to healing, you will start to see things more clearly. You will start to think of him less and less. He will no longer consume your thoughts and new possibilities will enter your life. if you can get through 2 weeks then you will have the strength to make it 2 more and so on until one day you wake up and when your feet hit the floor he does not even cross your mind. There is life after a heart break, you can and will get over him.
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