Whether your relationship has ended or you are in a current relationship that you know is not healthy down inside, letting go is very hard to do. We make excuses and hold onto hope, no matter how small. How do you stop this vicious cycle and move on and forget your ex?
Here are 5 tips to begin letting go.
1. Remove all traces of him, no matter how hard. Delete his number, his texts, his emails, pictures, clothing, any and all traces of him in your life. Its hard to do, but the reminders just trigger the pain. It's impossible to forget your ex when you are constantly reminded of him.
2. Stop all contact. Do not call, text, email, write, send message via pigeon and please avoid seeing him at all costs.
3. Make a list of all of the things that he did that were negative. Was he rude at times, cold, distant, write down all the things that he did that did not make you feel good. Read this list everyday.
4. Make a list of what you do want in your partner. What qualities must he have. Be honest here and don't let who your ex was cloud your judgment.
5. Find a support group. Go to an online forum, call your friends, get out even if its only for a few hours. Look around you, many have it a lot worse, reach out to others, it helps the healing.
The bottom line is, you are not alone. Many are going through the feelings of hurt, rejection, pain, disappointment, anger and depression just like you. These feelings are normal and part of the process that you will go through to get beyond this. Start to get over your ex now. Take the steps needed and let go for good.
I have been through this agonizing heart break. You reach a point where you just want to stop struggling and being miserable. You want a better life or you would not be reading this. Sometimes what seems like the end, it really a new beginning. If you want relief and want to end this pain, there is hope. I did it, but now without help. I got over what's his name.
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Thursday, September 16, 2010
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Getting Over a Break Up
How do you get over him you ask. How is it possible when you carry the pain around and the break up consumes your every thought. A big part of your life is gone. No more phone calls, sharing the same bed, laughing, its all gone and you feel lost. You feel helpless and at the mercy of your constantly changing emotions. They say time heals all wounds, but you want to get over him now.
The first thing you have to realize is that it is your choice as to how quickly you can heal. You can hold onto all that pain or you can chose to start letting go. Although the one that left us behind may be the source of the pain, they are not the ones preventing the healing. To heal is solely your responsibility. You may be saying I just wish I had some closure. Closure is your option, you chose to open or close, its that simple. Chose to close. Chose to get over him. Getting over a break up is never ever easy, but it can be done.
One of the first and most important step to get over him or her for that matter is to remove the source of pain from your life. Remove the source means to stop all contact. Get him out of your life so he will not have any power to inflict further pain. Step back and take this time for you.
Get rid of all emails, text messages, block him from face book, my space and any other social media sites. Get rid of all of his stuff. This man that broke your heart is like an addiction, an addiction that you want to be free of. All of those emails, texts etc... are triggers, they trigger the craving. Anyone who has ever stopped an addiction will tell you one of the first steps to recovery is to remove those triggers. REMOVE THE TRIGGERS. Hit delete and block all the way across the board. This is a major step in getting over a break up.
After about 2 weeks of no contact if you are open to healing, you will start to see things more clearly. You will start to think of him less and less. He will no longer consume your thoughts and new possibilities will enter your life. if you can get through 2 weeks then you will have the strength to make it 2 more and so on until one day you wake up and when your feet hit the floor he does not even cross your mind. There is life after a heart break, you can and will get over him.
The first thing you have to realize is that it is your choice as to how quickly you can heal. You can hold onto all that pain or you can chose to start letting go. Although the one that left us behind may be the source of the pain, they are not the ones preventing the healing. To heal is solely your responsibility. You may be saying I just wish I had some closure. Closure is your option, you chose to open or close, its that simple. Chose to close. Chose to get over him. Getting over a break up is never ever easy, but it can be done.
One of the first and most important step to get over him or her for that matter is to remove the source of pain from your life. Remove the source means to stop all contact. Get him out of your life so he will not have any power to inflict further pain. Step back and take this time for you.
Get rid of all emails, text messages, block him from face book, my space and any other social media sites. Get rid of all of his stuff. This man that broke your heart is like an addiction, an addiction that you want to be free of. All of those emails, texts etc... are triggers, they trigger the craving. Anyone who has ever stopped an addiction will tell you one of the first steps to recovery is to remove those triggers. REMOVE THE TRIGGERS. Hit delete and block all the way across the board. This is a major step in getting over a break up.
After about 2 weeks of no contact if you are open to healing, you will start to see things more clearly. You will start to think of him less and less. He will no longer consume your thoughts and new possibilities will enter your life. if you can get through 2 weeks then you will have the strength to make it 2 more and so on until one day you wake up and when your feet hit the floor he does not even cross your mind. There is life after a heart break, you can and will get over him.
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