5 Tips to Get Over Him

Whether your relationship has ended or you are in a current relationship that you know is not healthy down inside, letting go is very hard to do. We make excuses and hold onto hope, no matter how small. How do you stop this vicious cycle and move on and forget your ex?

Here are 5 tips to begin letting go.

1. Remove all traces of him, no matter how hard. Delete his number, his texts, his emails, pictures, clothing, any and all traces of him in your life. Its hard to do, but the reminders just trigger the pain. It's impossible to forget your ex when you are constantly reminded of him.

2. Stop all contact. Do not call, text, email, write, send message via pigeon and please avoid seeing him at all costs.

3. Make a list of all of the things that he did that were negative. Was he rude at times, cold, distant, write down all the things that he did that did not make you feel good. Read this list everyday.

4. Make a list of what you do want in your partner. What qualities must he have. Be honest here and don't let who your ex was cloud your judgment.

5. Find a support group. Go to an online forum, call your friends, get out even if its only for a few hours. Look around you, many have it a lot worse, reach out to others, it helps the healing.

The bottom line is, you are not alone. Many are going through the feelings of hurt, rejection, pain, disappointment, anger and depression just like you. These feelings are normal and part of the process that you will go through to get beyond this. Start to get over your ex now. Take the steps needed and let go for good.

I have been through this agonizing heart break. You reach a point where you just want to stop struggling and being miserable. You want a better life or you would not be reading this. Sometimes what seems like the end, it really a new beginning. If you want relief and want to end this pain, there is hope. I did it, but now without help. I got over what's his name.

10 Silly Ways to Help Get Over a Break Up

1. Put a picture of him/her in your freezer. Now this really is an old Voo Doo trick but think about it. How can you really take a man/woman serious who lives in your freezer.

2. If you can't bring yourself to delete his/her contact info in your phone, change his name. Something like dufus, dick, drama queen, never getting it again, etc..., something that will make you smile. Brainstorm with your friends to come up with a name. You will get some laughs here I am sure..

3. Write a reverse break up letter to yourself from him/her. Make sure he/she includes how stupid he/she was to leave you. Apologize to yourself from him/her. Be creative, add some humor and be as cynical as possible. Humor is essential in getting over a broken heart.

4. Post sticky notes around reminding yourself to give him/her nothing, absolutely nothing. After all he/she dumped you, they gave up all rights to get anything from you.

5. Go out and flirt like crazy with everyone of the opposite sex. Lay it on thick. If you can only stomach a few hours of this because of the sappy music playing, it's ok. Build up to it. You will build up a tolerance in time and be able to last longer.

6. Go outside and scream at the moon, sky, stars what a dummy he/she is. Tell the Gods how stupid this man/woman is for letting you go, for surely they are. Getting over heart break includes embracing and letting your anger out in a less destructive way other than drunk dialing for example. Dealing with your angry emotions is good for recovering from a broken heart.

7. Visualize yourself looking like a million bucks and that ex pleading to get you back and you saying no. The ex by the way looks like crap. Getting that image of Mr. or Mrs Perfect is a key of mending a broken heart.

8. Create another name for them when talking to those few close friends that know you are struggling. Again, brainstorming for that name can be funny.

9. If the ex does make a lame attempt at contact, don't answer or reply. Stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out at your phone. Seriously are you going to answer a stupid, "How are you text?" What is that? Lame is what it is. It's an attempt at relieving some guilt usually. Imagine him or her tossing you crumbs. To get over him or her, don't respond to crumbs. You are no chicken or rooster pecking on the ground.

10. Write a break up letter from you to him/her. Think of all of his/her flaws and write the letter as if you are the one doing the dumping. Include all the stupid things, like the fact that she snored like a freight train, or how he can't really dance at all. Mending a broken heart takes you letting go of the fantasies of how perfect he/she was.

Getting over a heart break really is hard. We have all done it. Attitude is everything. You will still have some rough days, but humor is a great buffer. Know that you are exactly where you belong and this is not the last man/woman on the planet. Choose to let go and move on and make an effort to do so. Life is to short to waste your mental energy on someone who is not putting any energy into you.

Consider Me Gone and Mending a Broken Heart

Consider me gone is a wonderful song by Reba McEntire that has touched thousands of women. It has helped many a woman on the road to mending her broken heart. We all relate to her heartfelt words. She sings of the break down of a relationship, the waning of communication and the distance that can grow. We often find ourselves standing at a crossroads where we have to decide if we utter those words, consider me gone. We know we will be mending a broken heart one way or the other.

The bottom line is this, we know somewhere inside we have to be true to ourselves. We know what we want, need and deserve. We also know if we go, we are going to suffer pain so we hold on sometimes longer than we should to avoid it. Letting go of someone you love is no easy thing to do. The road of mending a broken heart is hell. Nights of lost sleep, tears, loneliness and an empty place in your heart.

When I heard the words "If I am not the one thing you can't stand to lose", it spoke to me loud and clear. Isn't that what you want to be? You know in your gut if you are that one thing to him. Listen to your gut, listen to your inner voice and be true to yourself. Regardless of the pain, it will pass and somewhere out there is a man who will feel you are the one thing he can't stand to lose. You will never find him when you are holding onto a man who will go on with his life when you say "consider me gone". If he set you free, embrace the term consider me gone and start mending your broken heart.

We fear the unknown and if we walk away from our comfort zone, we feel stark naked and venerable in the unknown. Is the comfort zone the best place for you though? I think that sometimes we have to take chances and make changes. The universe is a big place and perhaps or more like probably there is something better waiting for us around the corner. If you truly are the one he can't stand to lose, he will come after you. He will go to the ends of the earth to find you. How would that feel? Wouldn't it be better to know the truth now so you can begin to live it.

Consider me gone is a beautiful song and I am sure it has touched many. There are probably millions of women riding in their cars with the radio cranked up singing along heart and soul. Be true to that heart and soul. If you aren't the one then just say it, even if only in your mind, consider me gone. If you are not the arrow to his heart, then it's consider me gone. Simple really.

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