5 Things Your Ex Does to Make You Think He Wants You Back

1. He says he still wants to be friends. This is not a sign he wants you back. This is a let you down gently line and he may truly want to remain friends. It's manspeak however for I am no longer attracted to you, therefore I see you more as a friend than a lover. If you want him back, being his friend is the most counter productive thing you can do to get him back. Remain his friend and watch him transition and move onto another woman sooner rather than later.
2. He returns your texts or calls. What are his choices if you call or text. A) He can ignore you, which he knows will hurt you. B) He can be rude to you, which he also knows will hurt you. He chooses the lesser of two evils to avoid hurting you further. He isn't thinking of the hope he is giving you. He is more concerned with picking the choice that will cause him the least amount of drama.
3. He agrees to a closure conversation. Although nice of him and count your blessings, many don't get this, it is not a sign your ex wants you back. It's a sign he may be a decent man again wanting to let you down gently. He prepares for this conversation. He knows he will get a million questions starting with why. He agrees to it hoping that it will help you to let him go. He gets tired of feeling guilty. Guilt will not get your ex back, I promise.
4. He will still have sex with you. This one is self explanatory. Men will still have sex with you. They can have sex and still not want to be in a relationship with you. Sex is just sex. If you still allow your ex to have sex with you after he broke up with you, you again are killing your chances of ever getting him back. Sex does not keep a man. He will continue to do so until he finds a replacement. You are allowing him to have his cake and eat it too and hurting yourself in the process.
5. He stares at you if you run into him out. This is the craziest one of all yet also the most common. A look is not a sign your ex wants you back. It's your analytical mind attempting to fabricate hope. I have stared at my ex before as well, wondering what on earth was I thinking. I didn't want him back. Why would I stare at him if I wanted him back, I would do something, not stare. Also be sure he isn't looking at the game on TV above your head if you are in a sports bar.

If you want your ex back, that is fine and well and I hope that it works out for you. Your best bet though is to stop wasting your time looking for signs. If you have to search for signs that he wants you back, that means that his intentions aren't clear. If you are looking for something, it means it is hidden. A man that wants you back will not keep his intentions hidden.

Stop looking at false signs if you want him back. That's precious time you are wasting if you want to get on with your life and also time wasted if you do want him back. Get a plan that works to get your ex back here.  My ex used these techniques on me and we are now living together happily.

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If It Wern't for My Ex Boyfriend Dumping Me......

I would not be on the path I am on.  Sure I went through the crying, depression, not wanting to get out of bed.  I wondered "why", countless times.  I lost a ton of weight.  I was angry and hurt.  I wanted him back.  I even got him back once, but alas, he dumped me a second time.  This weighed heavy on my ego to say the least.  Being dumped is a knock down, I don't care who you are. 

Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing.  The break up set my life as I know it now in motion.  I had to call upon great inner strength and self control many a days.  Though it was no fun, it was nice to again meet that strength, and an inspiration to keep me going that I did have a lot of strength.  Learning self control has turned out to be a great blessing that has carried to other parts of my life in a good way.  Had my ex boyfriend stayed, this would have remained stagnant in me for who knows how long.

These last 3 years have been the most exciting in my life so far.  I had a whirl wind romance and landed in Vegas.  I met 4 complete stangers (women) in Atlantic and New York City for 5 days.  I met them online in a break up forum.  I had a bitter sweet e-affair that I will never forget.  He taught me so much or rather I learned so much from him.  I went on countless dates with interesting men that better helped me decide what I do want in a relationship, really want.  I have had weekends at the beach with my best girlfriends.  I have connected with amazing people every where.  I can't help but wonder if I had stayed with my ex boyfriend if any of this would have transpired.  I think I know the answer to that.

In the process of it all, my career path changed as well.  I had always been in the cooperate world.  I begin to like my freedom, even embraced it in time.  I wanted it in all areas of my life, and I wanted to do something worth while.  Hence now I write articles on break ups, relationships, dating, flirting, you name it.  I like to think I am making a difference and earning a modest living in the process.  I am very very happy doing what I do.  My ex boyfriend would have thought I was crazy.  I was dabbling with it when we broke up.  Would I have stopped it all for him, shiver to think this.

Last but not least, I have a man in my life that supports me in all I do.  He is my cheerleader.  Had it not been for my ex boyfriend, I would have missed him in my life. 

Moral here.  What seems like hopelessness and despair really isn't.  There is a much bigger picture, a much bigger plan and it's way bigger than your ex boyfriend.  Embrace your freedom, doors are waiting to be opened now.  There is life after what's his name, I promise.

My Ex Won't Talk To Me

If you boyfriend just broke up with you and won't talk to you, it's not really abnormal.  If you know he won't talk to you, then it goes to assume you have tried to talk to him.  Maybe you called, maybe you texted and he won't answer.  Maybe you even show up where he is at.  The point is though, he isn't talking to you for a reason.

Part of it may be guilt.  He knows he hurt you and he feels bad, but it's not much point in talking if he can't make you feel better.  He knows if he says something to ease your pain, it will give you false hope and open him up to more questions from you.  Those why questions that you know you have and that you want answers to.  He doesn't really have answers, not answers that would calm you.  Maybe he wants to date others or see if the grass is greener on the other side.  Maybe he thinks you are too much drama.  To tell a woman the truth means more than likely she will freak and ask more questions or become angry.  If he won't talk to you, more than likely he fears your reaction.  He doesn't want a hysterical crying woman on his hands.  Men don't do well with this at all.

If you want to talk to him, your best bet is to wait.  By waiting, it appears that you are calm and he may feel safer later on to talk to you.  He doesn't feel safe at the moment.  He isn't ready to talk about it at the moment.  To push the issue will only drive him further away and decrease your chances of getting back together down to practically zero.  If you keep calling or texting him, you may very well be validating the reason he broke up with you in the first place.  He now feels completely responsible for your unhappiness.  Men don't want to be responsible for your happiness or unhappiness. 

When dealing with an ex, remember these wise words, men respond to distance, not words.  Bob Grant.

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My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me and I Want Him Back

When your boyfriend breaks up with you, when you don't want the break up, it can turn your world upside down.  Your emotions are all over the place and your first instinct is to convince or show him why he should take you back.

The things that destroy your chances are calling, questioning, texting, pleading, crying, or just wanting to talk about what went wrong and how he feels. These things just drive him further away.

Have you ever broken up with a man and then he just kept wanting to talk about it. He kept on and on. How did you feel? You knew there was nothing you could really say to make him feel better and talking to him only made you feel guilt.

Guilt is not an emotion that will bring his attraction back for you, trust me. Chances are if he kept it up, you began to feel sorry for him and started to see him as pathetic. Are you going back to a pathetic man? I doubt it, so why should he want you back if you are acting this way. Desperate comes to mind.

You may very well be feeling desperate, calling your girlfriends crying, my boyfriend broke up with me. Call your girlfriends, lean on them, but don't lean on him for your comfort. He broke up with you remember? It's ok to feel desperate, even quite normal.

The thing to remember here is to not let him see you this way. Self control is very sexy. A woman out of control is a wet blanket, really she is. It's not easy to have this self control when your emotions are all over the place, but if you want him back, it's critical that you keep control.

I know this works. My ex got me back after I broke up with him. Had he groveled, it would never have happened. He didn't. He accepted the break up like a man and went into no contact. I had time to miss him. Eventually the memories that caused the break up faded and were replaced by the strong man that he showed himself to be. Not to mention it was the respectable thing to do. To fight the break up would not have been respectful of my wishes. A couple months later, we worked it out. It would never have happened had he lost his self control or acted pathetic.

If your boyfriend broke up with you, you want to be strong and hold onto your dignity regardless of if you get him back or not. Do you want your ex to have his last memory of you crying and pathetic or of a woman with her head held high? That image will eventually replace his last image of you if you keep your self control. If you want your boyfriend back, remember self control and no drama is the key.

If your boyfriend just broke up with you, he has lost his attraction for you more than likely. If you want him back, you have to have a plan to rekindle his attraction.

The Best Plan to Get Keep Your Dignity and Get Your Boyfriend Back is HERE.

My Boyfriend Just Broke Up With Me

If your boyfriend just broke up with you, chances are good you are out of control emotionally. You have all these questions in your head, most of which start why or how.  How could he, why did he?  This time is critical though, it really is.  It's critical to keep your dignity and not look like a blubbering love sick school girl.  If you are hoping to get him back, what you do right now will determine this.  You don't want to be out of control, it shows you in a very unattractive light.  My friend Nicole Gayle described it best in her book "How to go from girlfriend to wife".

You may have had hopes of him being the one and really enjoyed being with
him but you must take what he says to you seriously and do not become a
Drama Queen. EVER! Your secret weapon: joy, lots and lots of it.
You don't have time to wallow in self pity. Pick yourself up, even if you
have to do so by your bra strap and don't listen to any well meaning advice
that you should give him time, try to remain friends, or contact him. This is
not in your best interest because you should never beg a man to reconsider.
That's not being smart!

You don't want to appear weak because people don't respond very well to
desperate acts. If you've ever watched the bachelor, you'll know what I
mean. This is beneath you. When a man starts telling you that he is no
longer into you, he means it. You must remain calm and together. Don't
ever break down by starting to cry in front of him but remain in control and
act like it's totally OK with you - deal with your feelings after. Break down
and let it all out after you've turned your back. What he wants to hear is that
you can handle yourself like a lady not buckets and buckets of rain.
When you're able to get some perspective, you'll be proud that you were
strong and didn't fall apart. You'll feel good about how you handled it
instead of having a criminal record of holding a man hostage to you.
My girlfriends' relationship with a co-worker didn't work out and she found
it difficult because it ended unresolved. She was raging angry but she didn't
show it when she would go to work. After a couple of weeks of reflection,
she came to the realization that knowing her personal self worth and value
was the key.

She decided to not allow a man, opinions, or circumstances to define who
she is as a woman. This level of enlightenment caused her to begin to
pamper herself by going out on the town, to the spa, getting her hair done,
and new clothes. And she told me that the best thing that could have ever
happened was to bump into him looking like a Fox. That day she was hot
and she knew it. As a matter of fact when she saw him at the elevator it was
a showdown - her chance to strut her stuff. They locked eyes, he checked
her out, and when she did the cat walk straight towards him while being
happy like she just won a million bucks, he suddenly lost his confidence
[BOOM].

He tried to make small talk and she thought she'd stop but she looked down
and saw that her legs kept walking. She walked away with her power and he
was left there drooling.
P.S. That's how you should handle a breakup

Regardless if you want him back, your dignity and grace is what he will remember.  Drama will only reinforce that breaking up with you was in fact the right decision.  The only way to get yourself under control is to go into no contact.  Not texts, no calls, no smoke signals.  He has to feel the loss of you.  If you stay in contact, he won't have time to miss you at all.  It just adds more pressure and more guilt to him.  If you think guilt will work in any way at all, you are sadly mistaken.  Hold onto your dignity woman, it's the only way to come out on top of this break up.

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Why Your Ex Won't Talk To You

If you have just been broken up with by your boyfriend you are probably climbing the walls.  You have so many why questions and you want answers.  You call, he ignores.  You text, he ignores.  Not even a smoke signal.  Why?

Because he doesn't know what to say to you.  He knows anything he says will likely turn into another question.  He knows he can't make you feel better unless he tells you he wants you back. Nothing he says will change anything and all it does is make him feel bad.  You may want to make him feel bad.  It solves nothing.  It won't get him back.

I was granted a closure conversation when my boyfriend broke up with me once upon a time.  All it did was piss me off.  In hindsight, it was because he didn't tell me what I wanted to hear.  Just told me the same old thing over and over.  It's not you, it's me he kept saying.  I don't know what I want he kept saying.  Now I know that wasn't all of the truth.  He knew what he didn't want, let's put it that way, or at the time thought he did.

Had I just gracefully exited the relationship and just left him alone things may have turned out different, who knows.  Instead I wanted to talk talk talk about it.  By talking about it so much, I created a sense of dread in him.  Anytime I called or made contact, he probably got to the point of rolling his eyes and saying, oh no, not again.  Do I have to rehash this all over again.

Trust me, if you have just been dumped, you will earn a lot more respect by going in no contact and letting him feel the loss of you.  A man won't feel like he lost you if you stay in contact.  Then if you still think you want him back, you will be in a better place in his eyes to recreate what was lost.  If his last memory of you is groveling, it won't be pretty.  Let his last memory of you be of respect.  Keep your dignity, don't lose it by insisting on talking to him.  Trust me, at this point, he very well may not want to talk.  Give him time.