If your boyfriend just broke up with you, you are probably just a hot mess. You can't sleep, you can't eat and you are just miserable. The same thoughts keep running through your mind over and over. You replay the last days, weeks and even months over and over in your mind, driving yourself crazy. Getting over a break up is so exhausting and painful.
Your friends have probably heard enough. True they are there for you and it's all great, but you know and they know you sound like a broken record. You keep asking why and you enlist their help to help you understand it all. You sometimes feel you will never be getting over a break up.
Thing is, you still don't understand it all. There are nights you are probably all alone with nothing but your thoughts to drive you crazy. You hate to call someone up because you know at this point, you suck at conversation. Where can you go, what can you do.
This happened to me in June of 2009. I landed on a women's forum. I read for a while, then I joined and started posting. I created a thread there called No Contact Support. Hundreds of women joined me there. The forum was recently shut down. Another heart break for me. I was shut off from all of those fabulous women who now could use my knowledge on getting over a break up.
I couldn't stand it, I created my own site with a forum so that I could continue the over 12,000 posts. I contacted all of the ladies and they followed me. When you are getting over a break up, you don't have to go at it alone. We are here.
If you are looking for a place to land and some fabulous support from women who have and still are going through what you are going through, please join us here. We would welcome you, comfort you and listen to you ask why over and over with no complaints. We would love to have you. You can find it here. We will take you beyond the break up.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me But He Keeps Calling and Texting
Oh the agony, when a boyfriend broke up with you but still texts and calls. It leaves you in limbo land. It gives you hope. It makes you think he misses you and may be thinking of getting back together.
It's pretty common though when a boyfriend breaks up to try to remain in contact with you. It's his way of easing his guilt. It's also a way of easing his pain. He does probably feel some pain, and by talking and communicating with you, it soothes him, yet he doesn't have to get back together.
Not fair at all is it. While you are easing his pain, you are also making your boyfriend's transition into the single life easier. He doesn't have to feel the loss of you all at one time. He can ease in, like you ease into a cold body of water.
Everytime you talk to him, it leaves you feeling empty and helpless. You don't know to be sad or glad. He talked to you so he must be thinking about you, but yet he makes no moves to get back together. This is just prolonging your healing and makiing your transitiion harder.
If you want to get him back, talking to him isn't going to do it. That's like him telling you "I promised you an entire chocolate cake, but it turns out all I have to give is crumbs". By accepting his crumbs you are telling him it's okay, you will settle for less when you really want more.
This will not get him back. To get him back you have to tap into his pain. He has to feel it. By talking to him, you buffer his pain. He moves forward and he has you to talk to when he is lonely and bored.
There are ways to tap into his pain, there are ways to rekindle his love and get him back. One of the best plans that I have followed with success is here.
It's pretty common though when a boyfriend breaks up to try to remain in contact with you. It's his way of easing his guilt. It's also a way of easing his pain. He does probably feel some pain, and by talking and communicating with you, it soothes him, yet he doesn't have to get back together.
Not fair at all is it. While you are easing his pain, you are also making your boyfriend's transition into the single life easier. He doesn't have to feel the loss of you all at one time. He can ease in, like you ease into a cold body of water.
Everytime you talk to him, it leaves you feeling empty and helpless. You don't know to be sad or glad. He talked to you so he must be thinking about you, but yet he makes no moves to get back together. This is just prolonging your healing and makiing your transitiion harder.
If you want to get him back, talking to him isn't going to do it. That's like him telling you "I promised you an entire chocolate cake, but it turns out all I have to give is crumbs". By accepting his crumbs you are telling him it's okay, you will settle for less when you really want more.
This will not get him back. To get him back you have to tap into his pain. He has to feel it. By talking to him, you buffer his pain. He moves forward and he has you to talk to when he is lonely and bored.
There are ways to tap into his pain, there are ways to rekindle his love and get him back. One of the best plans that I have followed with success is here.
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