If you have just been through a break up and your ex is making some positive movement in your direction, you may be asking yourself should I take him back. I hope you are asking yourself this at the least. If there was a break up, chances are there is something that isn't right. It would be a book if I listed them all here. I simply can't do that, but I can give some direction when deciding if you should get back with your ex or not.
My motto is actions actions actions. So many times women take their ex back because he said the right words. Words are nothing. Any man can tell you what you want to hear. To a broken heart the words are like a soothing ointment. In reality though, the words often only act as a band aid. They don't really heal the actual wound. I did this once upon a time. I took a man back simply because he showed up on my doorstep professing his love and fear of losing me. It lasted less than 30 days and here is why.
He had broken up with me. I didn't make him work for it. He told me what my bleeding heart was longing to hear and I jumped right back in. The loss of me had not really had time to sink into his head. He didn't really feel it. I didn't wait for him to show me with actions how sincere he was. At the moment, I am postive he was sincere and he even believed it. When they show you with their actions and not just words, not only are they convincing you that they truly do want you back, but they are convincing themselves.
Making him work with actions is no game. You deserve to know how much he really values you and you simply won't know this with words. Sure you can go ahead and take him back and hope for the best, but wouldn't it be so much better to just know? Long term satisfaction over instant gratification? If you get back together with your ex I assume you want it to be better than before.
Men are much like toddlers. They want what they want when they want it. Give a toddler a new toy because he asked for it and within the hour, it will be cast aside. Men do value what they work hardest for. Think about men and their cars. A car he bought out of necessity for a few hundred, over a car he worked hard to save for and still makes the payments for it. I guarantee he will treat the car he worked for with care. He is proud. They really are very similar with women. Ever heard a man tell a story about how he worked for his current partner of wife? They stand taller, talk louder and almost strut when talking about it. It's a lasting impression to say the least.
I am sure you may worry what if he doesn't put in the effort to win me back. If he isn't willing to put in what it takes to get you back, chances are good this is a man you should not get back together with. If he gives up when his lip service doesn't get him what he wants, do you really want a man like this? A man that doesn't see your value will not make a good life partner no matter how you look at it.
There is a true story HERE of a woman who has went down this road and didn't take him back right away. I know if you are hurting you want results now and getting back together may be all you can think of. This is not a minor decision and shouldn't be jumped into. It's something you and he both need to be sure of. It hurts far worse the second time you break up than the first, you can trust me on this one. Get it right the first time. If you want your ex back, watch for actions actions actions. Nothing else will do.
My motto is actions actions actions. So many times women take their ex back because he said the right words. Words are nothing. Any man can tell you what you want to hear. To a broken heart the words are like a soothing ointment. In reality though, the words often only act as a band aid. They don't really heal the actual wound. I did this once upon a time. I took a man back simply because he showed up on my doorstep professing his love and fear of losing me. It lasted less than 30 days and here is why.
He had broken up with me. I didn't make him work for it. He told me what my bleeding heart was longing to hear and I jumped right back in. The loss of me had not really had time to sink into his head. He didn't really feel it. I didn't wait for him to show me with actions how sincere he was. At the moment, I am postive he was sincere and he even believed it. When they show you with their actions and not just words, not only are they convincing you that they truly do want you back, but they are convincing themselves.
Making him work with actions is no game. You deserve to know how much he really values you and you simply won't know this with words. Sure you can go ahead and take him back and hope for the best, but wouldn't it be so much better to just know? Long term satisfaction over instant gratification? If you get back together with your ex I assume you want it to be better than before.
Men are much like toddlers. They want what they want when they want it. Give a toddler a new toy because he asked for it and within the hour, it will be cast aside. Men do value what they work hardest for. Think about men and their cars. A car he bought out of necessity for a few hundred, over a car he worked hard to save for and still makes the payments for it. I guarantee he will treat the car he worked for with care. He is proud. They really are very similar with women. Ever heard a man tell a story about how he worked for his current partner of wife? They stand taller, talk louder and almost strut when talking about it. It's a lasting impression to say the least.
I am sure you may worry what if he doesn't put in the effort to win me back. If he isn't willing to put in what it takes to get you back, chances are good this is a man you should not get back together with. If he gives up when his lip service doesn't get him what he wants, do you really want a man like this? A man that doesn't see your value will not make a good life partner no matter how you look at it.
There is a true story HERE of a woman who has went down this road and didn't take him back right away. I know if you are hurting you want results now and getting back together may be all you can think of. This is not a minor decision and shouldn't be jumped into. It's something you and he both need to be sure of. It hurts far worse the second time you break up than the first, you can trust me on this one. Get it right the first time. If you want your ex back, watch for actions actions actions. Nothing else will do.
