If you boyfriend just broke up with you and won't talk to you, it's not really abnormal. If you know he won't talk to you, then it goes to assume you have tried to talk to him. Maybe you called, maybe you texted and he won't answer. Maybe you even show up where he is at. The point is though, he isn't talking to you for a reason.
Part of it may be guilt. He knows he hurt you and he feels bad, but it's not much point in talking if he can't make you feel better. He knows if he says something to ease your pain, it will give you false hope and open him up to more questions from you. Those why questions that you know you have and that you want answers to. He doesn't really have answers, not answers that would calm you. Maybe he wants to date others or see if the grass is greener on the other side. Maybe he thinks you are too much drama. To tell a woman the truth means more than likely she will freak and ask more questions or become angry. If he won't talk to you, more than likely he fears your reaction. He doesn't want a hysterical crying woman on his hands. Men don't do well with this at all.
If you want to talk to him, your best bet is to wait. By waiting, it appears that you are calm and he may feel safer later on to talk to you. He doesn't feel safe at the moment. He isn't ready to talk about it at the moment. To push the issue will only drive him further away and decrease your chances of getting back together down to practically zero. If you keep calling or texting him, you may very well be validating the reason he broke up with you in the first place. He now feels completely responsible for your unhappiness. Men don't want to be responsible for your happiness or unhappiness.
When dealing with an ex, remember these wise words, men respond to distance, not words. Bob Grant.
Part of it may be guilt. He knows he hurt you and he feels bad, but it's not much point in talking if he can't make you feel better. He knows if he says something to ease your pain, it will give you false hope and open him up to more questions from you. Those why questions that you know you have and that you want answers to. He doesn't really have answers, not answers that would calm you. Maybe he wants to date others or see if the grass is greener on the other side. Maybe he thinks you are too much drama. To tell a woman the truth means more than likely she will freak and ask more questions or become angry. If he won't talk to you, more than likely he fears your reaction. He doesn't want a hysterical crying woman on his hands. Men don't do well with this at all.
If you want to talk to him, your best bet is to wait. By waiting, it appears that you are calm and he may feel safer later on to talk to you. He doesn't feel safe at the moment. He isn't ready to talk about it at the moment. To push the issue will only drive him further away and decrease your chances of getting back together down to practically zero. If you keep calling or texting him, you may very well be validating the reason he broke up with you in the first place. He now feels completely responsible for your unhappiness. Men don't want to be responsible for your happiness or unhappiness.
When dealing with an ex, remember these wise words, men respond to distance, not words. Bob Grant.
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