1. Put a picture of him/her in your freezer. Now this really is an old Voo Doo trick but think about it. How can you really take a man/woman serious who lives in your freezer.
2. If you can't bring yourself to delete his/her contact info in your phone, change his name. Something like dufus, dick, drama queen, never getting it again, etc..., something that will make you smile. Brainstorm with your friends to come up with a name. You will get some laughs here I am sure..
3. Write a reverse break up letter to yourself from him/her. Make sure he/she includes how stupid he/she was to leave you. Apologize to yourself from him/her. Be creative, add some humor and be as cynical as possible. Humor is essential in getting over a broken heart.
4. Post sticky notes around reminding yourself to give him/her nothing, absolutely nothing. After all he/she dumped you, they gave up all rights to get anything from you.
5. Go out and flirt like crazy with everyone of the opposite sex. Lay it on thick. If you can only stomach a few hours of this because of the sappy music playing, it's ok. Build up to it. You will build up a tolerance in time and be able to last longer.
6. Go outside and scream at the moon, sky, stars what a dummy he/she is. Tell the Gods how stupid this man/woman is for letting you go, for surely they are. Getting over heart break includes embracing and letting your anger out in a less destructive way other than drunk dialing for example. Dealing with your angry emotions is good for recovering from a broken heart.
7. Visualize yourself looking like a million bucks and that ex pleading to get you back and you saying no. The ex by the way looks like crap. Getting that image of Mr. or Mrs Perfect is a key of mending a broken heart.
8. Create another name for them when talking to those few close friends that know you are struggling. Again, brainstorming for that name can be funny.
9. If the ex does make a lame attempt at contact, don't answer or reply. Stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out at your phone. Seriously are you going to answer a stupid, "How are you text?" What is that? Lame is what it is. It's an attempt at relieving some guilt usually. Imagine him or her tossing you crumbs. To get over him or her, don't respond to crumbs. You are no chicken or rooster pecking on the ground.
10. Write a break up letter from you to him/her. Think of all of his/her flaws and write the letter as if you are the one doing the dumping. Include all the stupid things, like the fact that she snored like a freight train, or how he can't really dance at all. Mending a broken heart takes you letting go of the fantasies of how perfect he/she was.
Getting over a heart break really is hard. We have all done it. Attitude is everything. You will still have some rough days, but humor is a great buffer. Know that you are exactly where you belong and this is not the last man/woman on the planet. Choose to let go and move on and make an effort to do so. Life is to short to waste your mental energy on someone who is not putting any energy into you.
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